spoke to an old friend last week

[ChemicallyEngineered]

I spoke to an old friend last week who had moved out of my area a while back. We had been very close a few years back but had drifted apart and i have spoken about it here before. I decided to send my friend a message on FB asking for some supplement advice and also asking about a few rumors. He actually sent me his # and we spoke for qa while. It was cool to hear about his new GF who has helped him tremendously and is his new motivation for everything. We spoke about his work and him potentially moving back home now . I could genuinely hear the old him in his voice and he was excited to hear about all of the great things in my life. My wife is still wary(?) of his motives and doesnt want me getting real close to him if he comes back. She is not convinced after all of our history that he has made all of the changes to his life that he claims. Its really kinda bumming me out that she is so skeptical. I guess time will tell if he has made those changes to his life and then hopefully she will come to change her mind. What do you guys think?

[baby1]

Us wives have strong instincts and we are just not as easily trusting when our loved ones get hurt. Just wait and see if he is for real

[apbt549]

i agree with baby.. i would take what he says with a grain of salt and see what turns out.. if he has turned his life around great for him and i would help him in any way i could.. but trying to help someone sometimes you will let your guard down and get burned...

[guns01]

i agree with baby.. i would take what he says with a grain of salt and see what turns out.. if he has turned his life around great for him and i would help him in any way i could.. but trying to help someone sometimes you will let your guard down and get burned...

9 out of ten times unfortunately what apbt says is what happens. i had a real close friend of mine get messed up bad and got on some bad stuff. did the rehab thing blah blah blah, came back a changed man so i started to help him out a bit myself. i wont hang out with him any more cause that is not my scene but turns out he has been stealing from my, the company he works for and his parents. go figure, it is damn near impossible to trust anyone anymore. long gone are the days when a man's word was solid and you could hold them to it

[qhams]

9 out of ten times unfortunately what apbt says is what happens. i had a real close friend of mine get messed up bad and got on some bad stuff. did the rehab thing blah blah blah, came back a changed man so i started to help him out a bit myself. i wont hang out with him any more cause that is not my scene but turns out he has been stealing from my, the company he works for and his parents. go figure, it is damn near impossible to trust anyone anymore. long gone are the days when a man's word was solid and you could hold them to it

It is amazing what people sink to for drugs and alcohol. Sorry to hear about that.

[ChemicallyEngineered]

he is coming home to visit the week of oct 20th and i've invited him and his fiance over for a dinner. We will see if he keeps the plansand what else he does while he is here. My wife is also convinced at some point he is going to ask me for money or to become a partner in his new business as he is no longer happy with the way his partners conduct themselves. There has been no mention of money but i did ask him how he got into his current business. Time will reveal all.

[baby1]

Try to enjoy your visit and just realize if the old things surface, from him, just listen and know that this is how he is. You will either accept him for that, or you won't. The most important thing is that you won't fall for his ways