When Is A Fetish "Weird"?

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Is This Some Weird Fetish?

Hi Doc,While looking at some porn tube sites, I came across somethingthat was kind of hot and kind of disturbing. There was a video with a girl having, like,milk or cream put inside of her butt with a tube, and then she pushed it out. At first Iwas like, "gross," but watching it got more and more interesting. Is this some weirdfetish? I found it in the regular porn section, not the crazy section.-MarkNah, I wouldn’t say what you saw is weird, but I would ask for somecookies with that milk. They go together. What you came across in your porn surfing is akinky sexualbehavior called enema play. For the more technical term to impress your friends,it’s a paraphilia called klismaphilia. If I was grading papers, I would’vecrossed out some of the adjectives you used like "weird" and "gross" and replaced themwith "different" and "unique." You’d be surprised at the popularity of enema playfor both sexual and arousal purposes or for preparation for penetrative anal play.Originally, enemas were intended for colon and rectal cleansing, but anytime there’sbutt play going on for medical purposes, some kinksters are going to eroticize it, slap onsome lube, use their imagination and turn it kinky.In addition, you’llfind a wide variety of liquids that people enjoy placing inside the rectum. Itdoesn’t stop with milk; water, coffee and more is used, and individuals enjoydifferent temperatures of the liquid. Milk is an interesting choice. From a psychologicalperspective, milk has multiple meanings for people. For some, it may signify childhood andinnocence, or milk may have an ejaculation or cream pie significance. Others may simplylike anything to do with ass play, and aslong as the butt is involved, they’re aroused. Why would someone enjoy this, youask? That’s the million-dollar question with sexual behaviors, and we may never knowthe answer.Sometimes it's more important to work with what you’ve gotrather than seek out the origins. For those who have this kink wired into their brains,there are a lot of ways to explore enema play safely and with kinktelligence. I’dencourage folks interested to read Intimate Invasion by MR Strict for abeginner's guide to erotic enema play. Also, there are communities online where people canfind support, like enemata.com, fetlife.com and enemaloversguide.com, as well as plenty ofsites where people trade erotic enema stories.Checking Out Coworkers

I’ve been caught a few times by coworkers checking out their butts andcleavage. But I don’t get why, if women supposedly like to be wanted and be desired,that this is bad. You said this in an old article. So why wouldn’t they like it whenI check them out? I get dirty looks. Isn’t it the ultimate compliment?- StefanoI’m going to try and save you from a lifetime of strikeoutsand rejection.Most people check out those they are attracted to. It’s humannature to seek out positive visual stimuli. Of course, there are some women who enjoybeing checked out or someone honking the horn at them. They like the attention and enjoyit. Many women prefer something a bit more subtle, like a glance or eye contact and asmile. And for most women, having their body parts checked out is less complimentary andmore degrading or objectifying. How we check people out makes a world of difference. Whatare you trying to say? What is the message you’re trying to convey? Decide that andthen try using your words. Women like when guys use words. Compliments thatcompliment are much more effective that ones that make her feel like a piece of meat andmake you look creepy. Continue Reading

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