Re: My client and I are hooking up---WOW
i say go with your gut on the personal and business side man. whatever your gut instinct tells you 99% of the time will work in your favor. i have gotten involved with a few clients in my day. not in a relationship way but physically and all but one ended good. not in it to fall in love or at least that was my way of thinking and i absolutely never made the first move.
Re: My client and I are hooking up---WOW
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mrofrancis
B2J
me being very young u might not get anything from this, but at 18 i thought i met my soulmate, we dated for over a year, and then we had a very very very bad breakup and no that is not an exaggeration, after that same thing that happened to you happened to me met this girl she like working out wanted me to help her with working out, so i did and then she stopped working out eventually she got so controlling i cut her loose and now it is 8 months later. and yes i am back with the girl i think is my soulmate she and i have changed in many different ways in the almost year that we were not together and now we have better time together, and we are stonger then ever. just a little insight not telling you which way to go but u will figure it out bro, life takes it course and brings u paths u never thought it would, but remember EVERYTHING happens for a reason good luck with whatever happens
For some reason this post is the best. I really like it.
And yes I KNOW that things happen for a reason.
I spoke to my ex 2 days ago....she is a mess.
There are things I had no control over last year that she is holding onto because she is so so hurt...that I put so many financial things before her. It's the way I roll bros. Safety in the bank will pay the mortgage and my huge over head...not going to Cuba or going to Florida....those trips can wait a second later.
I tell you that my ex gave me real strong signals that things may progress if I am smart with my attitude and way of handling her.
So in the mean time, i called off the dogs with my client----I told her that I really could not mix business with pleasure....she is pissed, but she really sees the full picture too and will be on board with me. I met with her tonight, we had dinner. NOT A DATE!!! hahahah
Guns bro you stuf muffin you!! I agree with you too bro. Gotta take the good with the bad and made the best out of it. I agree!
B2J
Re: My client and I are hooking up---WOW
yeah, guns is a stuff-muffin alright!
LMAO :D
Re: My client and I are hooking up---WOW
You can't mix business and pleasure? I am not judging you but you guys went out for dinner not a date? Thats a date, just because you didn't kiss or have sex doesn't mean it isn't a date. If she was still pissed she has something there for you, even if she is not trying to get with you.
Re: My client and I are hooking up---WOW
Don't over think it, just let things take there own course.
Re: My client and I are hooking up---WOW
Better be careful with what you wish for so you should leave yourself an out in case things go wrong. Sorry for sounding harsh but so soon after you broke up with your true love, falling head over heels with one of your new clients does bring some serious risks so keep your wits about you and keep the relationship strictly platonic for now. If this does work out, then all the best to you!
Re: My client and I are hooking up---WOW
Hey guys some solid ass advise here for sure!! F.S.T.I. you hit me on the head.
Just a quick update:
She and I had been chatting over the phone the last 7 days before Sunday....she is going through a heavy depression, very sick in her voice.....we emailed a few times, she is hurting a lot.
But you know what guys? My life is a fucking mess!! I can't sleep. I have been taking sleeping pills for 3 fucking months now. My nose is bleeding from it. WTF
Sure I have chicks left and righ...but I am not interested in hanging out. To be honest I just want to be alone!!
So Sunday she and I talked, we were planning on meeting for a drink sometime this week.
I took that over Monday: Monday I woke up and I had it!!!
I called my cell company and had them change my number
I have server space for my own website, and email address---I fucking changed the email address...and blocked my webiste.
I deactivated facebook
and to top it off, I cancelled her membershipt at the gym, that "I" was still paying out of my own bacnk account.
So by now she is going to be a mess, I know it. But I am done trying to fix things, and blaming everytihng on me. FUCK IT!!!
I have a show in 13 weeks, I know she will be there to watch...she can say hello then, when I take the over all title.
Other than that, at the moment nobody can reach me, until I start to give out my info.
Did that make me feel better? I am not waiting by the phone, or by the email for her to send me something...this is fucking crazy!!
I have a business that is paying me 70k annually....and I own a small restaurant as well. There is no way I am going down for her.
If she wants to try to work things out, she will know where to find me. And if she does come look for me or contact me at work, then I will be ready to go all out and work things out.
As far as the client...she still texts me friendly stuff....but I keep my distance. The door is closed and is strictly business.
B2J
Re: My client and I are hooking up---WOW
So there you go, and your post proved that this was surely a dangerous gambit you took in getting involved with your client in the first place. Surely it is a lesson learned on your part so hope next time you won't get so deep into it with future clients as your business and your reputation is something you don't want to risk...ever.