my girl and xzanx issues shes killing me wtf

What sucks and hurts is that i do everything and when she's on that shit she's fucking mean and wakes up dosent remember and i didn't so all of a sudden I'm a dick cause i bring it up. I know i shouldnt but i feel like without me she wouldn't know what to do. She has lost weight only eats cereal at nite and shit which is hard i mean I'm into bodybuilding wtf. Thanks guys u guys know more of my biz than most people in my life,really thanks for the ear and listening to me vent its been a rough year.

BG

I think you are a top flight enabler you need to work on you and say Fuck all these others bringing you down. First its your friend now its your girl who you do everything for after working all day breaking your back. How long you been with her??? She will not change as long as you are there to catch her when she falls but if you dig out dont be surprised if she latches on to another. Thats what addicts do kinda like whos the NEXT sucka to do what they want like give them $$$ for drugs etc.... I dont mean to be disrespectful to you or situation sometimes we all need to hear the other side of things or different point of view. I see nothing but aggrevation,stress and heartache if you just let things go.

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Originally Posted by d-red

ya..basicly shes addicted. thats how it starts. being on them for "anxiety", weeks go by and you can`t fuction without them. same with pain killer. you hurt you back, 2 weeks later you cant do anything without them.

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Pretty much says it all...she has a problem alright and you're enabling her also so that's a problem too. I know what it's like to have been with an addict gf and it's not fun let me tell you. You'll end up bringing yourself down trying to help her. All that you can do is offer her help and if she doesn't want it then you have to start thinking about yourself which I know is easier said than done.

Thanks and i agree, I've been with her for almost four years she's always been somewhat lazy but y'all are right i enable her too much i realize i can't make her into someone she's not. Tonight we're going to dinner and I'm just goin to break it down to her no matter how hard it is , I have enough stress as it is. I figure i have just enough cash to move and get on my feet if needed. Ur also right i did the samething with my buddy trying to help him and got walked on and enabled him as well. I've beat bad vices myself and changed my life and try and help people that don't want or arent ready to be helped. Thanks again for the advice like i said in another post that i think its time to be a bit selfish and concentrate on myself and my kids.

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Originally Posted by niko

I think you are a top flight enabler you need to work on you and say Fuck all these others bringing you down. First its your friend now its your girl who you do everything for after working all day breaking your back. How long you been with her??? She will not change as long as you are there to catch her when she falls but if you dig out dont be surprised if she latches on to another. Thats what addicts do kinda like whos the NEXT sucka to do what they want like give them $$$ for drugs etc.... I dont mean to be disrespectful to you or situation sometimes we all need to hear the other side of things or different point of view. I see nothing but aggrevation,stress and heartache if you just let things go.

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You have to stop enabling her. If she is unable to listen about help/rehab then you may have to let her hit rock bottom. For some addicts, this is the only way they will seek help or be willing to accept it. I kinda went through the same with my ex. She IS bipolar 1 & 2. She never accepted treatment till our 3 year relationship went to hell, and I had to brake up with her. Sometimes it's best to cut all ties, as I did, to save yourself and that person.

U guys probably think i live a soap opra with my threads,to be honest its a shame to say but most of my friends r dead,prison,or doing shit I'm not into so i don't have many guys to talk to anymore that's why i vent or talk about my shit so much. Old friends would rather lift some type of rec drug to mouth,nose,or vien then any weights so y'all gotta hear it lol sorry!

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Originally Posted by bluegill

U guys probably think i live a soap opra with my threads,to be honest its a shame to say but most of my friends r dead,prison,or doing shit I'm not into so i don't have many guys to talk to anymore that's why i vent or talk about my shit so much. Old friends would rather lift some type of rec drug to mouth,nose,or vien then any weights so y'all gotta hear it lol sorry!

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Its all good and i think i speak for others who have responded. Wish i had some people to guide me or lend a helpful hint in alll the bullshit i went thrru. Stay strong she will most likely freak out but be prepared for the water works.

Well dinner didn't go that well ill tell y'all in the am i gota get some sleep

at least you stood up and tried to make things right bro. thats the most important thing

I figure she knew it was comin long story and a bit of drama I'm on craigslist looking today at places i didn't want to leave her high and dry so i paid the rent for three months then its on her I'm trying to move asap so its not all stressful here. To be honest I'm excited i haven't lived alone in like 12years so now i can focus on myself and kids. Plus i really want to try and do my first show soon so I'm kinda pumped. Thank god i saved for a rainy day. Thanks again fellas no bullshit you guys really helped me make my mind up no point of wasting any more time if I'm not feeling it. Thanks for the push.