When Should You Make Your Move?
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This week, Doc Love, author of "The System," tells a reader why it's worth it to wait for a date -- even if you can close that night.Hey Doc,First, let me say that “The System” is great because you have perfected it to take into consideration various possible situations.But something perplexes me, and that is why I am writing today. You state that a guy should go for the phone number immediately. Now, the benefit of this is that you display Mystery and Challenge and Confidence, and you rely on basic physical attraction. I know also from experience that when women are in a group and they notice your intentions, one or more will be jealous and try to block your advances on a certain girl, so it helps to get the phone number as quickly as possible. Other possible problems are also avoided by going for the phone number immediately.But as another love doctor (who I won’t name) stated: “But you had her at the bar right then and there. You could have used that opportunity to seduce her right then and there. You were on a 'date' with her right then and there. So getting a number so that you can meet up with her later and walking away from the interaction in the moment is totally counterproductive and nonsensical.”Doc, many times I’ve been in this position with a woman, especially at a bar or a party. Why shouldn’t you go in for a kiss when you meet a woman, wherever that may be, instead of waiting for a date later? If a babe is all over you, what’s the point in waiting several days for a date that you have to set up? If you have a woman interested in you right on the spot, doesn’t it make sense to capitalize on it? Shouldn’t you rely more on your personality skills when you meet a woman instead of relying on physical attraction?It seems to me that this other love doctor -- no disrespect meant to you -- has a very good point here. I’ll be interested to hear what you have to say about it.Albert - who doesn’t see the point of waiting for a formal dateHi Albert,First, let me straighten out your thinking. You don’t get a woman interested in you in the beginning from physical attraction alone. When you meet her, it’s true that you have to pass the Physical Attraction Test first, but then you sell her on your personality when she sees what a great personality you have. And that combination is what leads her to give you her phone number.Whether a woman’s friends try to block you or not is not the issue here. And besides, if a woman is interested in you, she will not give a hoot what anybody else, including her girlfriends, say about you. Because as I explain in my book, Interest Level cuts everything.Of course, it’s true that getting the phone number averts all kinds of problems. What else can you do but get a woman’s phone number? When are you going to run into her again? What if you don’t? How are you going to get hold of a woman if you don’t have her digits? If you’re in a New York City bar and you talk to her for 15 minutes, you’re never going to see her again if you don’t get that phone number. So, yes, getting the phone number is imperative. Continue Reading
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