My parents divorced when I was 6 years old. It was the same thing. My mom was a complete bitch, even though she was the one that cheated on my dad...which caused the divorce. I can tell you this: What goes around, comes around. Your children will grow up, and despise their mother.

I watched my mom do alot of cruel things to my dad while I was growing up. Parents dont realize that even though their children are young, they still know what is going on, and figure even more out as they got older.

I grew up to dislike my own mother. She acts like she is an angel now, and says that cheaters are bad people and people that sue others are bad as well....yet she has done both to my father and thinks that I dont know because I was young. WHat she doesnt realize is that I grew up having no respect for her because of this, and still dont have respect. My mother is fake and all about money and she is a hypocrite.

My dad was a jackass, but he was always honest to me. For that, I respect him.

So, just stay honest with your kids, and dont sink to your ex's level of behavior. Your kids will thank you and respect you for it later in life. And she will be stuck without the respect of her children.