TweetI wish nothing but the best for you and your kids. You seem to be a really solid person so keep your head up things will work out.
TweetI wish nothing but the best for you and your kids. You seem to be a really solid person so keep your head up things will work out.
TweetAny adult that assumes responsibility for another adult is robbing that ("helped") adult of their freedom through self-responsibility.
The question that you need to ask yourself is what are you getting out of it? Are you trying to show yourself &/or others that you are a good guy(person)?, control over anothers life in order to avoid responsibility for your own? I really dont care to hear your answer- I'd prefer not to. It is to yourself who you need to HONESTLY answer.
Co-addicts/co-dependents/enablers are in some instances just as sick if not more as the addict/dependent/enabled except they get to be under the false guise of good finger-pointing people. They can be using the addict to show how good they supposedly are. That finger pointing blame produces more shame onto the addict/dependent/enabled which is the fuel or at the root of addiction/dependence in some instances the very cause beyond physical addiction which comes about bc of shame.
A more directly true statement is: maybe no matter what you do you cant change her or even help her. Maybe you dont have the power to do so. Are you ready to accept that? Maybe you are'nt any better than her? And maybe it is you who needs to help you?
maybe letting go is all you can do and maybe the serenity prayer wisdom is the only thing you can change is yourself. trying to change others even through help is only prolonging their changing of themselves. And yes perhaps they would rather die than change and perhaps they will... or perhaps they will hit such a painful low that they'd rather change. It's their life not yours to do with what they will. Are you ready to accept that? if not- you nor her can be helped.
Last edited by apollo; 01-24-2011 at 11:00 AM.
Tweetnot to rob on the thread but hows it going apollo?
and for you bluegil, right on bro, i got your back all the way up to show time
Tweetshe needs help and getting off of xanax can be real tough,Especialy if she's taking 3 bars thats alot. You need to sit down with her and ask her if she wants help in a rehab place if she says no then its time for you to leave her.Its time for enablers to stop enabeling.I know this would be hard for you but thats what has to happen to people who abuse drugs.
TweetBlue you have done the right thing by standing up to her. You cant have people around you thats not positive and gonna bring you down. I take lexapro for anxiety and depression not addictive and hell i only take them during the week so i dont kill anybody at work lol. But there is other drugs for her to take to help her problem, sounds like she just likes the feeling they give her. i have an Aunt that started like that xzanx , then to pain killers, then oxy and now to crack. But she dont have a problem... so she says. You cant help her unless she wants to help herself. Maybe by kicking her to the curb and good ol Bluegill want be there to catch her when she falls. Maybe she will wake up and see she has a problem. Your kids and you must come first!!!! You need all the positive support around you getting ready for a show, dont need no shit pulling you down. You are a good bro with a big heart. Dont let these folks like your girl and your friend pull you down!!
TweetMad respect brother.
That is a very hard and selfless thing that you did.
Focus on you for now, stay single for a bit. Focus on your show.
CHASE THE DREAM, AND CHASE THE TRIM.
All the best in your endeavors,
X
Tweetthey're worse than smack comin off them.i was on about 6-8 bars plus methadone years ago and once the meth was outta me it took about 3 months for me to "get right".havin the same problem now.i get anxiety so bad i wake up every night around 2-3am and shake,sweat and sometimes cry in my sleep.my girl found some i had,made me throw them out but i got more a few weeks later.now she says dump them AND the gear or i gotta go.anxiety attacks are no f-ing joke.i think i'm gonna die sometimes.
i've always had them but now they're just getting worse.good luck in helping her get off those things.wish i never took them...
"Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are."
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