my girl and xzanx issues shes killing me wtf

[apollo]

TweetAny adult that assumes responsibility for another adult is robbing that ("helped") adult of their freedom through self-responsibility.
The question that you need to ask yourself is what are you getting out of it? Are you trying to show yourself &/or others that you are a good guy(person)?, control over anothers life in order to avoid responsibility for your own? I really dont care to hear your answer- I'd prefer not to. It is to yourself who you need to HONESTLY answer.
Co-addicts/co-dependents/enablers are in some instances just as sick if not more as the addict/dependent/enabled except they get to be under the false guise of good finger-pointing people. They can be using the addict to show how good they supposedly are. That finger pointing blame produces more shame onto the addict/dependent/enabled which is the fuel or at the root of addiction/dependence in some instances the very cause beyond physical addiction which comes about bc of shame.

A more directly true statement is: maybe no matter what you do you cant change her or even help her. Maybe you dont have the power to do so. Are you ready to accept that? Maybe you are'nt any better than her? And maybe it is you who needs to help you?
maybe letting go is all you can do and maybe the serenity prayer wisdom is the only thing you can change is yourself. trying to change others even through help is only prolonging their changing of themselves. And yes perhaps they would rather die than change and perhaps they will... or perhaps they will hit such a painful low that they'd rather change. It's their life not yours to do with what they will. Are you ready to accept that? if not- you nor her can be helped.