Thanks and i agree, I've been with her for almost four years she's always been somewhat lazy but y'all are right i enable her too much i realize i can't make her into someone she's not. Tonight we're going to dinner and I'm just goin to break it down to her no matter how hard it is , I have enough stress as it is. I figure i have just enough cash to move and get on my feet if needed. Ur also right i did the samething with my buddy trying to help him and got walked on and enabled him as well. I've beat bad vices myself and changed my life and try and help people that don't want or arent ready to be helped. Thanks again for the advice like i said in another post that i think its time to be a bit selfish and concentrate on myself and my kids.

Quote Originally Posted by niko View Post
I think you are a top flight enabler you need to work on you and say Fuck all these others bringing you down. First its your friend now its your girl who you do everything for after working all day breaking your back. How long you been with her??? She will not change as long as you are there to catch her when she falls but if you dig out dont be surprised if she latches on to another. Thats what addicts do kinda like whos the NEXT sucka to do what they want like give them $$$ for drugs etc.... I dont mean to be disrespectful to you or situation sometimes we all need to hear the other side of things or different point of view. I see nothing but aggrevation,stress and heartache if you just let things go.