Great post! As a mother, EVERY choice I make, I consider my child first. It is not about me anymore, it is about her. Sure life changed after my child but only for the better. We did the things we wanted to do before we had her, and I do not look back. Children are truly a gift and they bring you lefe not take anything away from you. So I am with you, if your child is affected in a negative way by the choices you make, then rethink whatever it is that you are doing.